The Motherhood Experiences of Non-Birth Mothers in Same-Sex Parent Families. (September 2021)

• Record Type: Journal Article
• Authors: McInerney, Anna; Creaner, Mary; Nixon, Elizabeth
• Is Part Of: Psychology of women quarterly. Volume 45:Number 3(2021)
• Page Start: 279
• Page End: 293
• Publication Date: 2021-09
• Subjects: non-birth mothers -- lesbian motherhood -- same-sex parent families -- interpretative phenomenological analysis; Women -- Psychology -- Periodicals; 155.33305
• DOI: 10.1177/03616843211003072
• Languages: English
• ISSNs: 0361-6843

Abstract

In this qualitative study, we explored the experiences of non-birth mothers whose child(ren) were planned and conceived within their same-sex relationship. We conducted semi-structured, face-to-face interviews with 14 participants in Ireland. We transcribed the interviews verbatim and analyzed the data using interpretative phenomenological analysis. Our findings comprised three superordinate themes: A Question of Recognition, An Insecure Connection, and Carving Your Own Way and related subordinate themes. Motherhood experiences were characterized by resilience and vulnerability in parenting their children without legal parental rights and within a heteronormative society that privileged biological motherhood. The dynamic relationship between seeking connection and seeking legitimacy that is at the heart of the participants' experiences of motherhood is highlighted. Participants encountered challenges to their maternal legitimacy within their families and communities and in their interactions with legal and social institutions. Participants described using various strategies to reinforce their parental identity. Despite the challenges, participants were engaged in constructing satisfying parenting roles. The findings highlight the importance of legitimizing the parental identity of non-birth mothers. Therapists should be sensitive to the additional marginalization of non-birth mothers in same-sex parent families. Validating their vulnerability and their resilience in the face of obstacles may enhance their coping resources. Online slides for instructors who want to use this article for teaching are available on PWQ's website athttp://journals.sagepub.com/doi/suppl/10.1177/03616843211003072