Counsel for couples : a biblical and practical guide for marriage counseling /: a biblical and practical guide for marriage counseling. (2019)
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- Book
- Title:
- Counsel for couples : a biblical and practical guide for marriage counseling /: a biblical and practical guide for marriage counseling. (2019)
- Main Title:
- Counsel for couples : a biblical and practical guide for marriage counseling
- Further Information:
- Note: Jonathan D. Holmes.
- Authors:
- Holmes, Jonathan D
- Contents:
- Part 1: The BasicsChapter 1 – Getting the Lay of the LandEvery pastor has faced a marriage in crisis. There is the momentary battle within---do you take the call and meet with them or give them a referral for a local, Christian counselor? Pastors often suffer a lack of confidence and competence when it comes to counseling. While many of us feel able to prepare a sermon or officiate a funeral, there is something about counseling which can be unsettling. As pastors, we must see that counseling is not a separate calling for the professionally trained. Counseling is borne out of a theological conviction that the Scriptures themselves are profitable for all matters of life and godliness. Chapter 2- Getting to the Heart of the IssueThe problems, which typically bring couples into marriage counseling, are rarely the problems, which keep them in marriage counseling. After a few conversations it often becomes clear that there are deeper waters that need to be explored. The constant conflict, the rebellious teen, the mountains of debt, the cold sex life---often are more symptomatic of heart issues, which need to be addressed.Chapter 3- Is this Above My Pay-Grade?Wise marriage counseling should affirm and know when to engage others for help. Oftentimes, lay counselors and pastors find themselves in fairly complex and messy marital issues. How can we thoughtfully engage others? What does the creation of a network of care look like? This chapter will provide practical advice onPart 1: The BasicsChapter 1 – Getting the Lay of the LandEvery pastor has faced a marriage in crisis. There is the momentary battle within---do you take the call and meet with them or give them a referral for a local, Christian counselor? Pastors often suffer a lack of confidence and competence when it comes to counseling. While many of us feel able to prepare a sermon or officiate a funeral, there is something about counseling which can be unsettling. As pastors, we must see that counseling is not a separate calling for the professionally trained. Counseling is borne out of a theological conviction that the Scriptures themselves are profitable for all matters of life and godliness. Chapter 2- Getting to the Heart of the IssueThe problems, which typically bring couples into marriage counseling, are rarely the problems, which keep them in marriage counseling. After a few conversations it often becomes clear that there are deeper waters that need to be explored. The constant conflict, the rebellious teen, the mountains of debt, the cold sex life---often are more symptomatic of heart issues, which need to be addressed.Chapter 3- Is this Above My Pay-Grade?Wise marriage counseling should affirm and know when to engage others for help. Oftentimes, lay counselors and pastors find themselves in fairly complex and messy marital issues. How can we thoughtfully engage others? What does the creation of a network of care look like? This chapter will provide practical advice on collaboration and utilizing counseling resources in your church, local community and the wider biblical counseling community. Chapter 4- Forgive and Forget? There are two words, which come up in almost every marriage counseling session: forgiveness and love. Forgiveness is critical to the long-term health of any Christ-centered marriage. Forgiveness is at the heart of the gospel itself, and yet ironically, many couples have no working theology of what forgiveness is or how it operates in a relationship. Helping a couple embrace a biblical understanding of forgiveness will enable them to work through the difficulties and struggles which marriage inevitably brings.Chapter 5- Where is the Love?If forgiveness comes up in every session, then the topic of love is not far behind. The world operates on a love-language mentality of 'you love me how I want to be loved, and I'll love you back.' Could there be anything further from the biblical model of love? At the heart of true, biblical love is self-sacrifice, and until that is realized, progress toward a healthy marriage will be inhibited.Chapter 6- Structuring Your Initial SessionsHow does it all work together? From session one to session two, what do you need to cover and why? Biblical counseling at its best and simplest is being able talk, engage, empathize, and inquire on matters of the heart.Good biblical counseling is never simplistic or reductionistic. Do we believe Scripture gives us everything we need to know God and our own heart? Yes, and it is out of this confidence, that counselors can rightly, carefully and compassionately apply Scripture to life in a way that brings true hope and change.Part 2: Practical IssuesChapter 7- My Wife Has Been Cheating On Me!Initial goalsBasic questions to askIssues to considerPossible heart motivations Scripture passage/exposition Testimonial'Expert' witness: Chapter 8- I Caught My Husband Looking at PornInitial goalsBasic questions to askIssues to considerPossible heart motivations Scripture passage/exposition Testimonial'Expert' witness: Chapter 9- My Husband is Not a BelieverInitial goalsBasic questions to askIssues to considerPossible heart motivations Scripture passage/exposition Testimonial'Expert' witness: Chapter 9- I Think My Spouse is Abusing MeInitial goalsBasic questions to askIssues to considerPossible heart motivations Scripture passage/exposition Testimonial'Expert' witness: Chapter 10- My Wi … (more)
- Publisher Details:
- Grand Rapids : Zondervan
- Publication Date:
- 2019
- Extent:
- 1 online resource (288 pages)
- Subjects:
- 259/.14
Marriage counseling
Church work with married people
Marriage -- Religious aspects -- Christianity
Pastoral counseling
Church work with married people
Marriage counseling
Marriage -- Religious aspects -- Christianity
Pastoral counseling - Languages:
- English
- ISBNs:
- 9780310577386
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